Monday Motivation // 07.29.13

Monday, July 29, 2013

Day 8: A piece of advice you have for others. Anything at all.

I saw this on Pinterest recently and it couldn't be more true. You might be the best of the best or the sweetest of the sweetest and there will still be someone out there who doesn't like you. 

I have a friend who gets upset every time she discovers someone doesn't like her. She always responds with, "They have no reason at all to not like me." I mean, they obviously found one reason not to like her, but it doesn't really matter in the end. You just have to accept that they would prefer to not have you in their life. 

That's the thing to remember, too. Why should you spend time worrying and fretting over someone's reasoning for not liking you? If you know the reason, are you going to change? Or will it make you more upset at that person because you don't agree that it's a good reason to dislike someone? 

In college, I had a friend who I felt was one of my closest friends for years, but things were beginning to change. Slowly I realized that she wasn't answering my texts or phone calls and didn't ever want to hang out with me anymore. At first, I was offended. I remember saying that she had absolutely no reason to not like me anymore. I obsessed about why she didn't like me for months. There came a point where I honestly didn't care about having a friendship anymore; I just wanted to know why she didn't want to be friends. I'm not sure what happened to make me realize that I needed to let go, but I finally did. I remember one day I just accepted the fact that we weren't going to be friends anymore and I will never know the reason why. The reason didn't matter. I figured out that I shouldn't keep making myself upset or unhappy over someone who clearly did not want me in their life. 

Now when I hear that someone doesn't like me, I remember that there are other people in my life who care a lot about me and I should spend time thinking about them rather than someone who isn't spending their time thinking about me. Next time you find yourself in this situation, just remember that. As I always say here on this blog, life is too short to be unhappy. Don't let someone else control your happiness because they found a reason to not like you. Remember, someone who chooses to not be a part of your life allows you more time for others who want to be there.

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Monday Motivation // 07.22.13

Monday, July 22, 2013

Day 7: The thing(s) you're most afraid of

Wow, the very first thing that popped in my head was unhappiness. I think a statement I say all too often is, "If it doesn't make you happy, don't do it." Simple as that. I talk about happiness all the time on this blog because I really and truly feel that everyone deserves to be happy in every aspect of their life and in every single thing that they do. I mean, obviously I know that you can't avoid all things that make you unhappy, but I feel like there is always a way to make a situation better so that you won't be unhappy. You just have to be creative. 

I think my fear of unhappiness stems from suffering from years of depression and anxiety. Going through depression and anxiety is hard and rough on a soul. Constantly being moody, emotional, and straight up mean takes a toll. It's like you have an out of body experience. You see you're acting that way and know that you shouldn't be, but you don't know how to make it stop. I've finally realized that you don't have to accept those feelings and you can change them. It takes effort, but it will happen. You just have to make the effort to change them. 

So, moral of the story: While unhappiness is scary, fight it. Do something about it. Make a change because you deserve to be happy. 

Monday Motivation // 07.15.13

Monday, July 15, 2013

Day 4: Favorite quote (from a person, from a book, etc) and why you love it

So, I have no idea where this quote is from, but I received a piece of paper with this quote on it a couple years ago at a sisterhood event for my sorority. Since then, I've had it taped to my file organizer on my desk so I can look at it everyday. 

This quote reminds me that I don't have to do everything on my own. Leaning on others who also have the same goals or wants or needs in life isn't a bad thing. I would have never been able to push through all of my major and minor classes without my friends who were also taking those classes to graduate. I definitely would not have been able to start this blog without the help of so many other bloggers who were on the same path as me. 

If you're struggling to accomplish a goal or your dreams, seek out others who are on the same path as you. Who knows, those people might need you as much as you need them. 

Happy Monday, y'all!